I was so turned-on last night.
And by turned-on I mean that not only was I aroused, but I was excited to be alive, my senses were heightened, and I was blissfully happy, appreciative, full of energy, and profoundly present with the gift that was each and every moment. Sounds great, huh? And that was only from listening to music! But that got me thinking: how do we find the turn-on in our everyday lives?
Some people are turned on by the smallest things, while other people require very specific stimulation, environments, or even certain days or weeks of the month. But as I was rocking out, so turned-on by this Argentine swing band in a perfect, late-night Berlin club, I could not help but notice the components of the turn-on. They are pretty simple actually. And once we learn to see them in our everyday lives, we can live in a constant state of turn-on. So here they are:
1. Notice other people's passion.
Passion is contagious. Many relationships begin because one person is passionate about another and their passion soon spreads. When an audience falls in love with a singer, they do so because that singer is bursting with passion, a.k.a., sexual energy. The more we connect with people who are turned-on, lit up, creative and sexually charged, the more we will have our own passion activated by their presence and their radiance. Gravitate towards these people, not away from them.
2. Be present with the details.
The thing that turned me on the most last night was the smallest details of the show: the way the lead singer would grab the 40's style microphone and pull it toward his mouth; the way the trombone player would thrust his instrument out into the crowd and the movement of his hips; the piano player's hands as he would finger the ivory keys, and the clear glass filled with scotch that sparkled and danced in its owner's hand until it found its way down his throat. Can you smell the scotch and sweat? Can you hear the music yet?
3. Pay attention to other people's gifts.
Talent is sexy and we all have it. But you have to pay attention to it. Noticing someone's affectionate touch, their talent at mixing drinks, their knowledge of music, or their skill at listening will all excite you and turn you on. This also works for their physical and emotional traits. Notice their blue eyes, the hair on their arms, their hips and butt, or anything else you find sexy or beautiful about them. Maybe you even start to find the "un-sexy" things sexy, like their shyness, a scar on their chin, the way they protect or hide their body, or some fat around their belly. There is so much beauty in the world!
Being turned on is good for you and good for everyone around you. What would it take to live in a constant state of being turned-on? Please leave your ideas in the comments below!
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